Welcome to Weighty Issues

As you may know, we live in a culture which promotes a love/hate relationship with food, with our bodies and ultimately with ourselves. Therefore, we are left feeling out of control with our eating and with our lives. Joyce Sarat White, licensed professional counselor and founder of Weighty Issues, helps clients explore information, challenge beliefs and encourages the reframing of one's relationship to food, to their bodies and to themselves. Click here for a more complete description of Weighty Issues.

This blog will provide you with the opportunity to receive support and education. The information is meant to complement, not substitute for professional services. Thank you for visiting, I hope it will become habit forming!

Sunday, May 17, 2009

A Client's Journey

I have been attending meetings of Weighty Matters for almost two years now and have learned so much not only about my relationship with food but also about myself.

Although I felt it was time to talk about what was going on in my life with food, I felt shy about walking into the first meeting. I wondered what kind of a group this would be and what would occur. Over the years, I'd been to Weight Watchers and Overeaters Anonymous meetings, counted endless calories and over exercised, and undervalued myself through it all. I'd lost myself in the battle with food daily and it was an unhealthy cycle I wanted to break free from.

The first session was very non-threatening. No plastic measuring cups for food amounts, no good/bad, no one talking about pounds lost or gained. How was this all going to work, I wondered?

Joyce was encouraging and supportive of everyone whether they spoke or not. The session was emotional issues surrounding food. Clearly it spoke to me. I learned from the first meeting on , that if I was present and by that I mean listening and attuned, something spoken at every meeting would resonate within me and make a connection. The insight would come to me, if not right at that moment then later. These epiphanies have been like keys that have unlocked doors and have set me free step by step.

It hasn't been easy. There have been times when the sessions, as gentle as they are, have seemed too difficult. My feelings were perhaps too raw or what I heard from another person in the group moved me too deeply. But those times have lead to larger breakthroughs and revelations. For me, this has been part of the growth process and part of learning to experience my feelings instead of using food to mask uncomfortable feelings.

I try to "share" something at every meeting even if I am tired or feeling vulnerable. Staying with Weighty Matters really works for me. Slowly, but it works. As Joyce says, it took years to get to the point of who and where I am today. Change doesn't happen overnight.

What have I learned from the group and private sessions with Joyce? The most important lessons have been about learning who I am without the action of using food to numb feelings, mask pain and sometimes, quite literally in the past to disconnect from life emotionally. I have found life is wonderful when I actually live it, move my body more and am not centered with consuming or not consuming food!

Everyone of us is unique and our paths to becoming healthy and healing ourselves are unique. I journal on a daily basis and try to walk everyday. Those are minimum basics for me personally. What they enable me to do is keep in touch with my inner self. This is also the benefit of counseling. I know ways to slow down my eating when I feel too tired or anxious such as switching my eating utensil to my non-dominant hand. Works every time, I focus on the eating and enjoy the meal more.

Listening and sharing with Joyce and the group has been a blessing. Speaking as a member of the group, I feel that we understand the feelings behind what we say as we have been there. It's personal when we reveal ourselves to another but to bring it forward reminds us that we are not alone. Support and encouragement are only two of the gifts.

It is worth every minute of continuing to come to the meetings. Even if you have had a difficult day, week, lifetime-keep coming back. It's worth it because taking the time to understand yourself is the best gift you can give yourself and you are worth it!

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