Welcome to Weighty Issues

As you may know, we live in a culture which promotes a love/hate relationship with food, with our bodies and ultimately with ourselves. Therefore, we are left feeling out of control with our eating and with our lives. Joyce Sarat White, licensed professional counselor and founder of Weighty Issues, helps clients explore information, challenge beliefs and encourages the reframing of one's relationship to food, to their bodies and to themselves. Click here for a more complete description of Weighty Issues.

This blog will provide you with the opportunity to receive support and education. The information is meant to complement, not substitute for professional services. Thank you for visiting, I hope it will become habit forming!

Sunday, August 21, 2011

Self-Esteem and Personal Power



Recovery from food and weight issues requires self-esteem and confidence. With high self-esteem, we are more able to deal with the rigors of life and not suffer from a great deal of stress needlessly. On the days when we are feeling confident in ourselves, strong and clear about our priorities, self-loving; then eating healthy is not a problem. Our day is filled with interesting, meaningful activities and we are feeling more hopeful, faithful and forgiving of our own imperfections and inadequacies. By being aware and utilizing the following supports, both internal and external, we will be more in control of our feelings about ourselves and our world.

Internal Resources:
1. Breathing-Take time out for 10-15 deep, complete breaths daily. It will give a fresh prespective on dilemnas and allow clearer thinking about what is really needed and how to meet that need instead of using food.
2. Senses-We can use our senses to let in information, but also to screen out things that we experience as negative to our bodies and mental well-being. For example, when is watching TV helpful and when is it toxic?
3. Musculature-Our bones and musculature support the movement and energy in our bodies. By standing and sitting straight and tall, energy can flow freely.
4. Boundaries-Knowing and learning our limits is a very difficult task for those of us who would like to think we are "Bionic"! Are you able to communicate what you want or need? What is "too close for comfort" and when do you need to be closer?
5. Ability to withdraw-Our bodies need time to rest, reflect and rejuvenate. Be aware of your need for a break from all the noise, cluttler and complexity of everyday life.
6. Humor-Life is alot more fun when we can let go of expectations and see the humor in our frustrations.
External Resources:
1. Nutrition-What foods give you energy and what foods leave you feeling tired?
2. Exercise-How do you enjoyably move your body? What activity is fun?
3. Family/Social/Counselor-Who do you trust and know will understand when you need to talk? Can Weighty Issues or Weighty Matters Support Group meet that need?
4. Work-Who at work do you confide in? Who makes you feel good?
5. Environment-Where do you go to get away that helps you relax? Is it the ocean, the mountains, a favorite room in your house?
6. Consciousness larger than yourself-Do you pray, meditate, or have another spiritual practice?

Finding the resources within yourself is where Personal Power begins. Then acting on your own behalf can help you stay healthy and grow in a direction you choose. If you would like support with self-esteem and personal power, please call me at 207 846-9053.

Saturday, April 30, 2011

Food: The Feeling Plug!



Do you eat in response to feelings other than hunger? Most people eat to soothe their feelings at least occassionally. Many of us learned this behavior from childhood. We learned to associate food with caretaking, comfort and love. For example, as enfants when we cried we were fed. As we became a little older, and perhaps fell, scraped our knee and felt sad, we may have been given a cookie to feel better. If left alone, our parents may have left us snacks to eat so that we might not feel so alone. If we did well in school, we may have been rewarded with a hot fudge sundae. And so food became our self-care tonic.

Today as adults if we continue to bury our feelings in food, we hurt ourselves mentally, physically and spiritually. Just as eating only one food day in and day out can lead to malnutrition, coping with our feelings using only food can leave us undernourished. We need to develop a variety of coping mechanisms to effectively deal with our feelings. Which ones appeal to you? Relaxation...Assertiveness...Movement...Problem solving...Support...Expression of our feelings thru journaling or counseling...Sitting with our feelings and letting them run thru us.

If you need support in your self-care with feelings, please call me at 846-9053.