Welcome to Weighty Issues

As you may know, we live in a culture which promotes a love/hate relationship with food, with our bodies and ultimately with ourselves. Therefore, we are left feeling out of control with our eating and with our lives. Joyce Sarat White, licensed professional counselor and founder of Weighty Issues, helps clients explore information, challenge beliefs and encourages the reframing of one's relationship to food, to their bodies and to themselves. Click here for a more complete description of Weighty Issues.

This blog will provide you with the opportunity to receive support and education. The information is meant to complement, not substitute for professional services. Thank you for visiting, I hope it will become habit forming!

Friday, August 10, 2012

Spirituality of Weight Loss: Losing 100 Pounds of Pain

I am always in awe of the hard work by my clients.  The following client is no exception.  She presented her story as a sermon to her church.  As you read it, I am sure you will see her patience and perseverance in healing her weight issues and ultimately changing her life. May you be inspired by her journey. 

Click here to read the entire sermon.

Sunday, May 6, 2012

The Power of Gratitude

Everyday, I am grateful and truly blessed for my clients.  They are wonderful people who entrust me with their deepest thoughts and challenges.  I am honored to sit with them in their pain so they can find the answers hidden deep within.

In turn, I was pleasantly surprised and appreciative with the following very kind note from a client. "You really are an exceptional person in the field, because I believe you truly do care about your clients and the work you are doing with them.  You are consistent, supportive, nonjudgemental, focused AND...you have a sense of humor.  As my kids would say, you rock!!  I wholeheartedly and unequivocally recommend you professionally."

And so in the words of Henry Van Dyke, "Gratitude is a twofold love-love coming to visit us, and love running out to greet a welcome guest."

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Why Weight?

We want to be healthy and lose weight so why do we sabotage ourselves again and again? Part of the answer could be that our weight protects us.

1. Our weight protects us from unwanted attention from the opposite sex.
2. Our weight allows us to continue to eat chocolate etc.
3. Our weight keeps us from feeling our feelings.
4. Our weight helps us avoid compliments.
5. Our weight means we can remain quiet and isolated.
6. Our weight allows us to stay stuck in old limiting beliefs.
7. Our weight protects us from failing...from relapse.

Do any of these thoughts resonate with you? How does your weight keep you safe?
By putting your thoughts and feelings into words, awareness and understanding develop. Then we can make the best decision for ourselves.

If you would like to put your thoughts and feelings into words, and sort thru this issue, please call me at 207 846-9053.

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Wishing You a Diet-Free New Year!!

Why do we resolve year after year to diet when diets clearly are not working? Perhaps because we are bombarded by the media to think that diets work....But research shows that Diets do not work. For every diet there is an equal binge so the best way to gain weight is to go on a diet. The mere thought of saying "I resolve to diet" is enough to set us up for overeating.

There is an alternative. The NON-Diet approach is a way to cultivate healthy practices in our lives that enhance our overall well-being physically, emotionally and spiritually. It is about looking deeper and fostering self-understanding, self-care and compassion. It is about trusting ourselves, listening to ourselves and learning attuned/intuitive eating.

The following excerpt is from a previous client who graciously sent me this note about how our work together helped her feel more confident and more self-worth as she learned to go from dieting to NON-Dieting.

"I've been thinking for awhile about dropping you a line to tell you how well the results of the sessions I had with you are working in my life!

You helped me to make the connection between feelings and food. I know now to focus on my feelings when "I feel like eating" at other than meal times. I've discovered that tiredness and boredom are two of my triggers. I know a cat nap and beginning a new activity are the solutions....NEVER is food the answer. I have learned to express anger, sadness, and feelings of anxiety. First, by stating aloud to the other person the way I am feeling and then by saying what it is that I need. For too many years I stuffed down what are considered negative feelings just so I could appear to be the perfectly wonderful always happy, good girl!

As a result of our work, I, without dieting, lost 52 pounds. I have gained a great deal of confidence and a sense of self-worth. I manage to hover at a stable weight without being vigilant about food and eating. I have become vegetarian as a natural easing into what is an all around healthier life style. I generally don't focus on food. When I do, particularly, if it is around snacking or eating "healthy junk food," I check in with myself about what the thoughts behind the behavior really are. I am not perfect at this, but that's just fine...I don't want to be perfect at anything anymore!

People often ask me how "I lost the weight." Counting Points? Counting Carbs? Counting fat grams? Jenny Craig? Weight Watchers? I tell them, None of that." I went to counseling to find out WHY I was a compulsive overeater. I did it by NON-Dieting. I know when I came to you, I was so-o-o ready to be free of this compulsion. It was the best decision I could have ever made for myself. I am thankful that you were there for me. I hope others find you too."

If you feel that you are tired of dieting and want an approach that can bring you a Joyful New Year.   If you want to make peace with food and weight, please call me at 846-9053.