Welcome to Weighty Issues

As you may know, we live in a culture which promotes a love/hate relationship with food, with our bodies and ultimately with ourselves. Therefore, we are left feeling out of control with our eating and with our lives. Joyce Sarat White, licensed professional counselor and founder of Weighty Issues, helps clients explore information, challenge beliefs and encourages the reframing of one's relationship to food, to their bodies and to themselves. Click here for a more complete description of Weighty Issues.

This blog will provide you with the opportunity to receive support and education. The information is meant to complement, not substitute for professional services. Thank you for visiting, I hope it will become habit forming!

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Getting the Support You Need: A Client's Letter

A former client sent me a letter sharing her experience in getting the support she needed.  Perhaps her words will help you reach out for the support you need.

Dear Joyce,

Prior to meeting you, I had met with other therapists with whom I had never felt comfortable.  Then one day I read an article about disordered eating by a specialist located in Maine.  I contacted her asking if she could recommend a therapist and I'll never forget what she said, "Run, don't walk, to Joyce White."  Now, when I hear of others who struggle with food or body image, I find myself repeating those words in my mind "Run, don't walk, to Joyce."

I remember my first session with you clearly.  You had asked me about the other therapists that I had seen and what I felt worked or didn't work with them.  I had mentioned that I hated when I was told, "it's ok to eat a cookie, you just can't eat 10 of them."  As someone who binged, purged, and starved, this statement was more hurtful than helpful.  I had then mentioned to you that I was tired of people and articles telling me what to eat or how to eat.  As someone who has struggled with food and weight most of my life, I knew what I was suppose to do.  The battle was that I could not do what I had been told I should be doing.  I never forgot your response.  You stated that on the surface, everyone seems to have the same problem but the answer to solving it was unique to each person and that you would work with me to find out what was right for me.  That my answer would be different from anyone else's and that I would learn to listen to myself.  I think that brief moment helped me more than all the hours I had spent before with other therapists. I appreciated that we never discussed food, diets or nutrition but rather who I was as a person and what was happening in my life outside of food.

You helped me become more aware of myself and gave me tools to start healing myself.  I consider myself a work in progress and I confess I still have moments.  The difference is that now I actually feel confident about my future.  I KNOW now that food will not control my life.  What I can do now that I could not do before is put my relationship with food in perspective to the sum of my life.

I have come very far because I was lucky enough to have found you and to have received your guidance and compassion.  Thank you Joyce for your kindness and caring.